It’s always hard when a relationship ends and you know you didn’t do anything wrong…
It’s even more hurtful when someone discards you and creates a false story about what happened that’s filled with lies in order to justify their actions to others.
A story that was deliberately designed to manipulate the truth and to cover up their own disgusting behaviours and actions.
Because they’d rather do this and go to these lengths, than to have some real integrity about them by admitting the truth to everyone and taking accountability for what they did.
But the truth is, a person like this who treats you in this way isn’t a normally functioning person.
In fact there's an awful lot wrong with the person they've presented themselves to be.
Because a normal functioning person who has morals, values, empathy, and a level of emotional intelligence wouldn’t do this!
This type of person is very likely some form of a narcissist or is a covert narcissist that went undetected.
Because a normal person doesn't create lies and a false scenario or story about someone because of something they did, and then spread those lies to as many people as possible in order to paint themselves as the innocent victim.
Them accusing you of something that you didn't do is manipulation by gaslighting!
The most damaging part to someone about this whole scenario is that it makes someone question their own self-worth and whether they’re even enough for someone, or whether they’re just unlovable…
It’s even more heartbreaking when the people they’ve told then paint you as the villain, and people you don’t even know dislike you because of someone else’s lies, when they don’t even know any part of the truth.
They don’t know that the very person who’s given them this story is the very person that they should be very wary of.
Because usually people who do this have a history of doing this, and it’s only going to be a matter of time before they do the same thing to everyone else.
Because the very moment they feel as though they’re about to be exposed for something that they shouldn’t have done, their natural instinct is to deflect by spreading a story that damages someone else, or throwing someone else under the bus so to speak as fast as they possibly can to divert attention away from what they’ve done.
But do you know what…
Your self-worth is bigger than someone who makes you question your self-worth.
So when the reason that your relationship ends is because you were accused of something that you didn’t do, understand that it’s probably because they’ve done something that they don’t want to take responsibility for.
It’s not even about you!
It has nothing at all to do with the person you are.
When you know you were a good person and you know that you didn’t do anything wrong, but they somehow with their story made it all your fault to cover up their own wrong-doings, that’s manipulation on their part.
We spend so much time and mental energy hoping that they might just see things our way.
Hoping that they’ll actually do the right thing by taking accountability and telling everyone they’ve lied to what the actual truth was.
But some people especially if they’re narcissistic will never ever even consider the possibility that they are in the wrong.
You can present all the evidence in the world to them, and you can try to explain the truth over and over again to them, but if their ego is bigger than their heart, and the arrogance is bigger than their level of empathy they just won’t ever see it…
It’s heartbreaking, it’s cruel, it’s disgusting behaviour, it’s manipulation, and it’s them showing you who they really are.
It’s them finally showing you who they really were all along.
Don’t allow a pathetic excuse for a human-being to even come close to damaging your self-worth because of this.
Know that this is completely a reflection of who they really are and their character.
There is nothing wrong with you, you didn’t do anything wrong, you’re aren’t unlovable, it wasn’t your fault, and you are enough just the way you are.
~ Mark