When someone starts blaming you after they’ve continually disrespected your boundaries after you’ve repeatedly asked them not to; this is a major red flag of manipulation.
They know they are hurting you through their actions yet they continue to do it.
They continue to be disrespectful.
They continue to hurt you and your emotions and then blame you for it.
Manipulation is real.
Emotional manipulation is real.
But a master manipulator is a master at the art of being subtle.
It starts as a white lie here and there.
A couple of hurtful backhanded comments or comments that put you down.
They start twisting what you’ve said to make you start to doubt yourself.
Then the snide comments start to escalate.
They start accusing you of changing your mind all the time to make you feel like you’re mind is irrational and confused.
They lie to you and then deflect when you try to discuss it with them.
They become defensive when you present the evidence to them.
They start to use your values and your love languages against you as emotional manipulation.
They will then tell you not to turn things around onto them because it's all your fault.
And before you know it, it’s snowballed into a world of chaos where all of a sudden they are convincing everyone else that you are the problem.
Because you dared to confront them about their disrespect.
They feel like they've lost their control over you so they now turn their attention to controlling how everyone sees you.
They will stop at nothing to ensure they don’t lose face and their ego doesn’t take a hit.
They will create false stories, and they will twist the truth so much that it no long resembles the truth.
They will label you as the abuser.
And they will paint themselves as the innocent victim when they are in fact the perpetrator.
Because they are very good at what they do.
They go undetected.
They are covert.
But behind the mask lies the truth.
The truth that you KNOW to be real.
The person that you KNOW to be real.
They are gaslighting you.
They are manipulating you.
Do yourself a favour; get out and leave NOW!
Because the longer you stay, the higher they increase their threshold for hurting you, manipulating you, and destroying your self-esteem and self-worth.
~ Mark
